Dear Deviant,
I’ve been dating a woman for a few months now. This is my first lesbian relationship, but she has only been with women. We met in the club scene just flirting and making out sometimes. Eventually we started seeing each other more often and started a relationship. My problem is she still makes out with other women when we go clubbing. She says its just innocent partying. Do I have a right to be jealous?
-Jane Lover
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Dear J-Lo,
Usually I do not do this, but I’m going to make an exception for you. I am going to tell you the future: This is your ex-girlfriend- maybe not today, but soon enough. Save yourself the forthcoming heartache. It may be innocent kissing for her, but it obviously was not for you- you made her your girlfriend after swapping spit a few times. One always has the right to be jealous…that does not mean the other person has the obligation to care. If you are uncomfortable with the option of having an open relationship both of you are going to be miserable. Your jealousy will soon infringe upon her lavish lady loving and it will consume you until you explode in a Carrie-like rage. Or you can just be friends and find another person who only hearts J-Lo.
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