Dear Deviant,

I have a friend that I started hanging out with and her best friend got jealous. Eventually I just stopped being nice and started reciprocating her behavior. One day the best friend got really immature and told her that she did not want to be friends anymore. So I wrote her and told her what an immature b*tch she was being and that no one was trying to steal her best friend. I really called her out on her behavior towards her best friend and towards me. She apologized and made up with our friend. So what’s the problem you ask? She is still being a B!tch. Not as hostile but her demeanor is still the same. It feels like she does not want me around. I am not backing down over something so immature. After the incident I started being my nice normal self again, but she is still acting cold; a little warmer, but still cold. Should I call her out again in person this time? Should I keep ignoring it and bring someone else around so that I have I have someone to make make me feel more comfortable when in the situation? Lately, if we are in a social setting and I feel her pulling for attention of our friend I usually go work the room. What do you think Deviant?

Annoyed ‘Friend’
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Annoyed ‘Friend,’

That was annoying. This evil friend-of-friend was acting immature, so you went off on her…..in an e-mail.

Where is your mutual friend during all of this cold behavior? Is she too cool to notice this bickering beef of bffs? Or does she realize that if she interjects, it is possible that all 3 of you will have to stand in the corner during recess and then go straight to nap time?

It feels like she does not want you around because she does not want you around. If your new friend (her best friend) does not care to act as a buffer between her two friends, perhaps she is not so friendly either. PLEASE do not bring someone else into this vicious triangle of Real Scenesters of Miami.

Play nice kiddies.

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