Posts Tagged friend
He’s Not Your Man.
Dear Deviant,
My friend Lissi and I went to a party over the weekend. This guy that I saw last week and am totally infatuated with was there. Lissi knows how much I want to hook up with this guy cause I told her on the way to the party. At the party, I introduced myself and Lissi to this guy, and he and Lissi hit it off!!!!! He ends up asking for her number and she’s all drooling over him now. I can’t believe she stole my crush. Should I let her know how I feel or just cut her off? We’ve been friends forever, but I feel betrayed.
-MargInCharge
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Dear Margie,
Sometimes, not always, but just sometimes I do not believe these letters I receive are real life situations. Read the title of this post: This is not going in the win column for you. You “saw” this guy last week…and now have dibs on his soul? If Lissi had been scheming to get her claws into your boyfriend or at the least, some guy you had a crush on FOREVER, then yea, cut that bleep off. But…. you “saw” this guy, told her about him on the way to the party, and then actually believed you were more charming than her….?? I’m new to this whole advice column thing. No one is going to write me if I go off on every person that submits a letter. But Marge…come on fam. Be happy for your friend and find a new infatuation. Unless Lissi is a serial guy-stealer, let her and Prince Charming live happily ever after. Next time you “see” someone that is totally-infatuation worthy, do something other than introduce your friend to him.
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Confessions of a ManTaker
Dear Deviant,
Last week I was hanging with my BFF. Things were cool, but I told her I had to go take care of my mom who had a cold. Instead, I went on a date with her boyfriend. I feel terrible about lying, but they haven’t even been together that long. This was our 6th date. We haven’t had sex yet but he’s tried and now I want to. What should I do?
MANTAKER
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Dear MANTAKER,
I will spare you all the moral indignation everyone else would so rightly pour upon you. Instead, let’s forget everyone else’s feelings and just focus on you (something with which you are obviously quite comfortable). If you are going on dates with this guy, I take it you may be interested in more than some hot sex on a platter. This is not a good choice in a mate for you, mostly because he has adulterous tendencies AND a soon to be ex-girlfriend who already has your phone number and address. I take it you are severely starved for attention because of all the guys out there, you chose your “BFF’s” man. You might as well sleep with him- If not to compound the hurt your friend will live when she soon finds out that her guy has been double dipping in the friend sauce, at least because the aftermath will surely lead to another great post on Dear Deviant. PLEASE make sure to use a condom when making use of the community manhoe, no need to sprinkle chlamydia on the stab wounds in your BFF’s back.
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My Friend’s Friend is not being Friendly
Posted by Deviant in Advice, Uncategorized on June 29, 2009
Dear Deviant,
I have a friend that I started hanging out with and her best friend got jealous. Eventually I just stopped being nice and started reciprocating her behavior. One day the best friend got really immature and told her that she did not want to be friends anymore. So I wrote her and told her what an immature b*tch she was being and that no one was trying to steal her best friend. I really called her out on her behavior towards her best friend and towards me. She apologized and made up with our friend. So what’s the problem you ask? She is still being a B!tch. Not as hostile but her demeanor is still the same. It feels like she does not want me around. I am not backing down over something so immature. After the incident I started being my nice normal self again, but she is still acting cold; a little warmer, but still cold. Should I call her out again in person this time? Should I keep ignoring it and bring someone else around so that I have I have someone to make make me feel more comfortable when in the situation? Lately, if we are in a social setting and I feel her pulling for attention of our friend I usually go work the room. What do you think Deviant?
Annoyed ‘Friend’
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Annoyed ‘Friend,’
That was annoying. This evil friend-of-friend was acting immature, so you went off on her…..in an e-mail.
Where is your mutual friend during all of this cold behavior? Is she too cool to notice this bickering beef of bffs? Or does she realize that if she interjects, it is possible that all 3 of you will have to stand in the corner during recess and then go straight to nap time?
It feels like she does not want you around because she does not want you around. If your new friend (her best friend) does not care to act as a buffer between her two friends, perhaps she is not so friendly either. PLEASE do not bring someone else into this vicious triangle of Real Scenesters of Miami.
Play nice kiddies.
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