Posts Tagged friends with issues
He’s Not Your Man.
Dear Deviant,
My friend Lissi and I went to a party over the weekend. This guy that I saw last week and am totally infatuated with was there. Lissi knows how much I want to hook up with this guy cause I told her on the way to the party. At the party, I introduced myself and Lissi to this guy, and he and Lissi hit it off!!!!! He ends up asking for her number and she’s all drooling over him now. I can’t believe she stole my crush. Should I let her know how I feel or just cut her off? We’ve been friends forever, but I feel betrayed.
-MargInCharge
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Dear Margie,
Sometimes, not always, but just sometimes I do not believe these letters I receive are real life situations. Read the title of this post: This is not going in the win column for you. You “saw” this guy last week…and now have dibs on his soul? If Lissi had been scheming to get her claws into your boyfriend or at the least, some guy you had a crush on FOREVER, then yea, cut that bleep off. But…. you “saw” this guy, told her about him on the way to the party, and then actually believed you were more charming than her….?? I’m new to this whole advice column thing. No one is going to write me if I go off on every person that submits a letter. But Marge…come on fam. Be happy for your friend and find a new infatuation. Unless Lissi is a serial guy-stealer, let her and Prince Charming live happily ever after. Next time you “see” someone that is totally-infatuation worthy, do something other than introduce your friend to him.
DeviantE-mail your love & advice questions to me@deardeviant.com
Buddy Lovin’ pt. 2
Dear Deviant:
How do you make clear to a guy that you do NOT want to be his sex buddy or his girlfriend without hurting his feelings yet still stay pals? Should I relate a gross or embarrassing story? Leave a turd spinning in my toilet bowl when he hangs out at my apartment?
-ODD
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ODD,
Why you would allow someone to put you out of your zone to the extent of not flushing your toilet is in a word: sad. In other words: bizarre, creepy, masochism, etc. Put your foot down. If feelings are hurt, that’s the way it is. Do you want such a trite friend anyway? Try saying this: “Dig Fam, let me be all the way 100: Somos amigos, you are not getting my panty-draws.” If that approach is a tad too brolic for you, notice of restraining order should communicate the same message effectively. While it will impede your budding friendship, from your description of the situation, court ordered distances were in the near future anyway.
DeviantE-mail your love & advice questions to me@deardeviant.com