Dear Deviant,
Are some men put off by independent ladies? Do they take offense that some ladies have jobs and errands and outside interests? Do they interpret that as aloof-ness

ODD
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ODD,

Men rule the world, this is just how it is. However, women rule men. The average/typical guy is deathly afraid of independent women. Not all, but many (perhaps the majority? I cannot will not say) of men have hugely fragile egos, so any interest outside of “your man” is a grand offense. Sure, we will complain about the clingy girl who calls too much, but I don’t think you’re prepared for the aftermath of what would happen if said clingy girl called only a little less. Think Defcon 1.

Not only is having a life of your own considered aloofness, it is also grounds for seeking a side piece who is more into your guy. Fear not, these are characteristics of lame guys, which you should be avoiding by all means anyway. Find a live dude who realizes your time together is your time together and your time a part is your time a part.

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